KNOW YOUR LIMITS! By Maree Anderson (for Writers Gone Wild)
Have you ever pressed Send on an email or a comment, and immediately wished you could take it back? With comments at least, often there's a chance to edit or even delete entirely. But sometimes there's no option and whatever you said is "out there" forever. Scary thought.
And have you ever posted something and then gone back and tweaked it? And tweaked it again. And then thought about how something you've written might be taken the wrong way, and gone back and edited it again. And again. And again. And then still had that sick feeling in your stomach that you're going to offend someone?
And what about if someone does take umbrage? Do you feel physically ill and horrified and take it extremely personally, even though it's only one person's opinion and you're smart enough to know that not everyone will agree with you, and that you can't please everyone?
I'm guilty of all of the above. In spades and then some. To the extent where my post might be already published and then is edited a number of times before I reluctantly leave it be.... at least until the next day, when I re-read it and blanch at a particular phrase and tweak it again.
I entered into a discussion yesterday and now I'm kinda wishing I hadn't. Because sometimes, no matter how carefully you craft that post or that email or that comment, you're going to rub someone up the wrong way. And inevitably, as more people enter into the fray, your original post gets taken even more out of context and your original intentions are overwhelmed by the juggernaut that is going public on the internet.
When am I gonna learn to keep my mouth shut (or my fingers off that Send key) so that the only people I unintentionally annoy end up being a fictional characters in my current manuscript?
Well, hopefully one day I'll learn. And perhaps I'll end up being the perfect woman, like the one in this video:
And yes, actually I do love little kittens!